12 months before:
Writing up the guest list:
1. Immediate family (Siblings, Parents, Grandparents)
2. First cousins and their parents
3. Parents' friends
4. Our closest friends
Round 1 invitees: All of Tier 1, All of Tier 2, First 40 of Tier 3, First 20 of Tier 4
Round 2 invitees: Split equally between Tier 3 and Tier 4
Round 1 invitees: All of Tier 1, All of Tier 2, First 40 of Tier 3, First 20 of Tier 4
Round 2 invitees: Split equally between Tier 3 and Tier 4
Have the money conversation:
1. Girl/Boy Ang Pow who does it go to?2. Budget: SGD20,000 spent (before ang pow) for the wedding dinners 1 to 3, excluding air tickets and hotel stay.
Book Your Venues:
0. SG Venue: (to be decided, Way's mom to make arrangement)1. SG Venue: (to be decided, Jay's mom biggest say and arrangements by her)
2. West M'sia Venue: (to be decided, Jay's dad biggest say and arrangements by him)
3. East M'sia Venue: (to be decided, Way's dad biggest say and arrangements by him)
0. After ROM Dinner venue for Tier 1 guests (and maybe Tier 4) guests
1. Wedding Dinner venue for Tier 1 to Tier 4 guests
2. Wedding Dinner venue for Tier 1 to Tier 3 guests
3. Wedding Dinner venue for Tier 1 to Tier 3 guests
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10 months before:
Settle on the officiant/ ROM Marriage:
1. File a notice of marriage for a Basic Solemnization at ROM on a weekday (non-Public Holiday)
Select your bridal party:
1. Jay's Sis 1, Jay's Bro 12. Jay's Sis 2, Way's Bro (JX or CY)
3. Way's Sis 1, Jay's Fren 1
4. Way's Sis 2, Jay's Fren 2
5. Way's Fren 1 (JL), Way's Fren 2 (JJ)
Applicable to only 1. SG Venue
Shop for your vendors (i.e. find person/service + $):
- Bouquet and Boutonnière (Flower on female attire and male attire respectively)
- Wedding Rings
- Wedding Dinner (Location, Table & Chairs, Food, Musicians, Emcee, Other Entertainers, Alcohol, Wedding Favours, Centrepieces, Wedding Cake, Parking, Tips, Menu/Program, Other Decoration)
- Wedding Transport (Vehicle, Decor, Chauffeur)
- Wedding Photographer/Videographer (Actual Day Shoot)
- Traditional Ceremony (Gift Exchange, Tea Cups, Tea, Red Packets, Ring box)
- Thank you cards (Print, Postage)
- Wedding Invitation (Printed Cards, Adobe Spark, Postage, Cakes)
- Bridal Dress and Accessories (Shoes, Gloves, Bracelets, Necklace, Head Gear excluding bouquet)
- Groom Suit and Accessories (Shoes, Tie, Handkerchief, Cuff Links excluding boutonnière)
- Make-up Artist & Hair Stylist
- Pre-wedding photos/ videos (Photographer, Videographer, Adobe Lightroom, Adobe After Effects, Printing of Photobook, Pen, Loaning of tablet for video playing
Round 1 Expenditure: Wedding Dinner (Food, Location), Traditional Ceremony
Round 2 Expenditure: Wedding rings, Bridal dress & Accessories, Groom suit & Accessories, Make-up Artist & Hair Stylist
Round 3 Expenditure: Thank you cards, Pre-wedding photos, Wedding Invitation, Bouquet & Boutonniere, Wedding Photographer, Transport, Wedding Dinner (Everything else)
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Details
Bouquet and Boutonnière
Pink Gerberas Daisies
Rings
Metal: Gold, Silver, Steel or Titanium
Profile: Court, Flat Court, D-Shape, Tapered towards the gem (if applicable)
Finish: Star-dusted, Sand blasted
Style: Gem, Engraved, Inlay
Band Thickness: 2.5mm (female) 3.5mm (male)
(If the following is applicable...)
Gem: Pink Tourmaline, Lapiz Lazuli, Pink Diamond, Sapphire, Aquamarine
Gem Cut: Round, Marquise, Radiant, Heart
Gem Clarity: No "visible to the eye" imperfections.
Profile: Court, Flat Court, D-Shape, Tapered towards the gem (if applicable)
Finish: Star-dusted, Sand blasted
Style: Gem, Engraved, Inlay
Band Thickness: 2.5mm (female) 3.5mm (male)
(If the following is applicable...)
Gem: Pink Tourmaline, Lapiz Lazuli, Pink Diamond, Sapphire, Aquamarine
Gem Cut: Round, Marquise, Radiant, Heart
Gem Clarity: No "visible to the eye" imperfections.
Gem Set: at least 4-prong if the gem is not inlay.
Gem Size: Gem is visible to the eye and fits the ring profile.
Gem Size: Gem is visible to the eye and fits the ring profile.
Wedding Dinner
Centrepiece
Pictures on the table numbers - a whimsical trip down memory lane
Live Music
Performed by the musically inclined relatives and friends

Wedding Cake
Delicious, 1-tier
Wedding Favours
Whimsical and not too expensive


Wedding Transport
Chauffeur: Groom's brother
Decor: DAISO flowers
Wedding Photographer/ Videographer
If hired, one that is paid to cover the event and not Jay's friend
Photos wanted
Tea Ceremony with each of the parents and grandparents (3)
Family photo (extended and immediate) for both sides (4)
Photo with groom and bride's invited friends (1)
Photos wanted
Tea Ceremony with each of the parents and grandparents (3)
Family photo (extended and immediate) for both sides (4)
Photo with groom and bride's invited friends (1)
Traditional Ceremony
Red Packet
List all occasions to gift, Budget for it
Tea Cups and Tea
Tea that James will drink, Tea cups that we want to keep
Thank you
Whatsapp out the photos of the guest to them via groups (Composite)
Hankerchief
List all occasions to gift, Budget for it
Tea Cups and Tea
Tea that James will drink, Tea cups that we want to keep
Wedding Invitation/ Thank you Whatsapp
Wedding Invitation
Thank you
Whatsapp out the photos of the guest to them via groups (Composite)
Bridal Outfit
Budget: Purchase from Vietnam at a cost of <SGD50 per gown for up to 2 gowns
Potential Tailors: Tuong Tailor, A Dong Silk Tailor, Kimmy Custom Tailor, Bao Diep Tailor, Rubin Cloth Shop, Peace Tailor, Bebe Clothshop
First outfit: white ballgown
Neckline: Boat, Round with V, Leaf sweetheart, Scallop with lace, Bateau
Back: Boat neck, Closed
Sleeve: Cap sleeve (normal, flare, pleated), Short sleeve (normal, tulip)
Waist design: Basque or Natural (2 finger width above my actual waist)
Skirt Style: Ball gown or A-Line without any additional flourishes

Skirt Length: Floor length (optional - 1 feet to 3 feet train)
Veil: To floor (chapel train length to be the lace pattern)
Material: Machine-washable, Can wring material - Cotton, Linen, Polyester, Nylon, Modal
Colour: White, Pinkish White
Alternative: Leondo strapless a-line ivory ball gown plus size wedding dresses with short sleeves at SGD 50.00 on Lazada
Gown go for as cheap as SGD30.00 on Lazada, Aliexpress, etc.
Tiara
Earrings
Hopefully can wear Sport Shoes below
If one of desired in Vietnam, to purchase from Vietnam at a cost of <SGD80.
Specs as per Jay's liking
Pants
Suit to have bountennaire hole
Groom Accessories
ShoesPotential Tailors: Tuong Tailor, A Dong Silk Tailor, Kimmy Custom Tailor, Bao Diep Tailor, Rubin Cloth Shop, Peace Tailor, Bebe Clothshop
First outfit: white ballgown
Neckline: Boat, Round with V, Leaf sweetheart, Scallop with lace, Bateau
Back: Boat neck, Closed
Sleeve: Cap sleeve (normal, flare, pleated), Short sleeve (normal, tulip)
Waist design: Basque or Natural (2 finger width above my actual waist)
Skirt Style: Ball gown or A-Line without any additional flourishes
Skirt Length: Floor length (optional - 1 feet to 3 feet train)
Veil: To floor (chapel train length to be the lace pattern)
Material: Machine-washable, Can wring material - Cotton, Linen, Polyester, Nylon, Modal
Colour: White, Pinkish White
Alternative: Leondo strapless a-line ivory ball gown plus size wedding dresses with short sleeves at SGD 50.00 on Lazada
Gown go for as cheap as SGD30.00 on Lazada, Aliexpress, etc.
Bridal Accessories
Tiara
Earrings
Hopefully can wear Sport Shoes below
Bridal Lingerie
Based on internet review: Goddess Lace Longline Strapless Bra, Fantasie Strapless Bra, Panache Evie Strapless Bra, Freya Deco Underwire Strapless Molded Bra, Wacoal The Red Carpet Full-Busted (or Full Figure) Strapless Bra, ThirdLove Strapless Everything Bra, Victoria Secret Multi-way Bra, Maidenform Smooth Luxe Strapless Bra, AdoreMe Fifi Push Up, Wonderbra Ultimate Strapless, Le Mystere's Soiree, Lilyette's Tailored Strapless
Breast support comes from band (& rubber edging)
Groom Outfit
If one of desired in Vietnam, to purchase from Vietnam at a cost of <SGD80.
Specs as per Jay's liking
Pants
Suit to have bountennaire hole
Groom Accessories
Hankerchief
Make up Artist & Hair Stylist
Courtesy of Mom & Female Cousin
Pre-Wedding Photo (Compilation)
Adobe After Effects (Opening up a book)
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